An Overview of How Porn Kills Love
November 02, 2021
Sex between a married couple isn’t just about intercourse. It is about love, trust, intimacy, and being accepted unconditionally by your spouse. Porn kills love because it is about sex…raw sex.
In marriage, there is an emotional and physical bond that forms between the couple. Addicts can’t see it, but in porn videos, that bond doesn’t exist. Actually, a bond forms between the addict and the screen instead of between the addict and his spouse which is another way that porn kills love.
What the addict bonds with on the screen is not real. He is bonding with airbrushed images of a woman who is acting out a movie script. This isn’t even close to real life. Unfortunately, his partner can never live up to this unrealistic expectation.
The selfishness of the addict is another way that porn kills love
Watching porn alone isolates the addict. Viewing something that meets only his specific needs for the moment without any regard for anyone or anything else…is selfish. This is what porn addicts do on a regular basis. Rather than being open and honest about their desires and engaging with their spouse, porn addicts rigidly stick to their ritual and kill any love that might exist with their spouse.
When porn addiction is present, it leaves each person vying for themselves. The addict seeks out what he needs to satisfy the addiction. The partner seeks out anything that can help her feel safe again. Trust is lost. This is one of the worst types of betrayal that a partner can ever experience.
Porn can lead to sexual problems
Porn induced erectile dysfunction can make having real sex a challenge if not impossible. Sometimes the addict’s brain only allows his penis to respond to porn and not to you…their real, physical, human partner.
Addicts can also become less satisfied physically with their sexual relationship with you. There is no doubt that this will kill any loving feelings between the two of you. With porn, when they aren’t satisfied, they can just skip to the next scene or image. With you, they actually have to put effort into making sure that the experience is enjoyable for both of you.
Conclusion
Porn kills live in a lot of ways including the ways mentioned in this article. If the addiction persists, it will be very challenging for you to ever feel the love, tenderness, understanding, fulfillment, and safety that you expect from a committed relationship. It can be hard to let go, but it is also important for you to live a happy life.
You will both likely need outside help to work through the addiction and how it has impacted you. With help and hard work, you could heal and rekindle the love that has been lost.